And to
add to my list (in my last Blog post) of things that appear one way and actually
run another way; we can add a scene from that all time favourite film Pretty
Woman. Picture Vivian at the breakfast
table the morning after the night before, after the line from Edward Lewis “there
are four other chairs” and Vivian gets down from the table and instead settles
down into one of the aforementioned chairs.
There
she is munching on a croissant. Not any
old croissant mind you, but one that when it is one third eaten, miraculously
changes into a pancake that is also one third eaten. The team managed to get the amount of food
eaten to be roughly the same, but alas they picked on the wrong pastry when
they continued with shooting the scene.
Now
how many times have we watched that film, and not seen the switch until
tonight. You see, all too often we allow
ourselves to see what we want, rather than that which is actually there. A third of the way munched croissant here and
problem there. Maybe it’s not a problem all,
but simply a pancake, if you see what I mean. So remember that the situation is not always
how we see it, not even when we are absolutely certain about the accuracy and the
clarity that we think that we have about an event or occurrence. More often than not, it’s about perception
and what we want to see. So go on and
add this explanation to my earlier list, and in doing so start to build up a
portfolio of coping mechanisms and things to rationalise our feelings, and
anger, and confusion.
Oh,
and it’s still Merry Christmas, so make sure that you set your hang-ups to one
side and get on in there and enjoy yourself.